Super-dog

Toffee loved to wear this bandana. Perhaps it was because he received a lot of positive attention from strangers when he wore it. Perhaps because he liked to have something wrapped around his neck. Or maybe it signified that a walk might be happening soon. Last July after Toffee died I gave away many of his things, including food, beds, raincoats, accessories. This super-dog bandana was one of his treasured items that I kept.

Twelve years ago when my husband passed away, each time I saw a photo of him (e.g. at his memorial service) I would fall apart. Tears would flow uncontrollably, just like they are flowing now as I think of him. I knew that as difficult as it might be, I needed to look at his photo as often as possible in order to work through the grief. If I tried to minimize the opportunity for tears and pretend that I was dealing well with the loss, that the grief would only be delayed.

Last July I put together a photo montage of Toffee which I shared with family and friends. That activity allowed me to spend hours looking through photos of Toffee, and bringing back so many fun and happy memories.

I am reminded daily of the many good times and good years spent with my super-dog at my side. His photo is on the fireplace mantel, and his favourite bandana is attached to my fridge.